Teach Children to Embrace their Mistakes Road Trip With Good Friends A couple weeks ago I was on a road trip with some good friends. We went to Buffalo for a dance workshop and we all had a really good time. Making a Mistake On the way home I was given the task of navigating.
The Challenge of Authenticity Showing My Whole Self Authenticity is challenging. When I am authentic with somebody I am exposing a deep vulnerability. I can’t be authentic without showing the Yin and the Yang of who I am. If I leave out either I am hiding myself. Therefore it seems the degree of my authenticity
Rejecting my position as an authority figure Yesterday I spent the whole day with my daughter. We drove around doing errands and some shopping. A Relationship Filled With Ease The whole time we had a natural rhythm to our conversation. There was an ease in our interaction. There was a mutual care for each other’s
Competing Parenting Priorities The Pattern of Priorities In working with families over the years I have noticed one of the most common obstacles that people face is competing or contradictory parenting priorities. This is when faced with a situation where 2 (or more) different priorities are at play and we must choose which one to
Storming the Castle When the ninja would plan to take over a fortified castle they would do attack on many fronts. They would send some soldiers in to attack directly, they would send some climbing over the wall, some digging under the wall, some swimming through the moat. They would also plant spies on the
Your Relationship With Your Kids Will Never Be Fair. It can be beautiful, fun, peaceful and harmonious, but fair… Not so much. This is a source of much stress to many parents. You Will Always Have To Do More Emotional Work Than Your Kids. At least for the first 20 years or so. The reason
You’re pushing my buttons An event on the elevator The other day I was in the elevator and a family came in. It was a mom and two kids. The girl was probably 7 and the boy around 4. Right away the young boy started pressing all the buttons in the elevator. You could see
I haven’t written directly about punishment in a while so I thought it might be good to say a few words on the topic. If you have been following my blog you probably know that I am significantly against punishment of any kind. This includes consequences, removal of privileges and timeouts. An Open Mind If
The Importance of Language I was at a dance event yesterday and while I was waiting in line to get in I was having a chat with a few friends. We were talking about the importance of language. I mentioned how my preference is to use positive language most of the time. Especially when talking
The Spiral Of Infinite Growth I have been writing a blog post a day for almost a year. In fact this very post is my 364th. Writing every day has changed me in many ways. One of the most noticeable changes is my increasing awareness of the depth available in every moment. Having to find