Encourage your kids to say NO to you and to DISAGREE with you And celebrate when they do! I know how crazy that might sound, believe me. And yet it is such an important element to conscious parenting. Saying NO is one of the most important things for young people to be able to do.
Break The Cycle A few years before my daughter was born I made a commitment to change the parenting style that had been handed down to me from my past. I reflected on my experience as a child and realized how much I wanted things to be different for my kid. I could feel the
It is important to foster our kid’s independence, freedom and critical thinking. It is also important to protect them in certain circumstances. Often it seems like these two things are in direct opposition to each other. In order to protect them it feels like we have to limit their freedom. Finding a way for these
An Antidote for Yelling A mother asked me for help because she finds herself yelling a lot and wants to yell less. This happens especially when things like brushing teeth come up and they resist. Here is my response: Dear friend, I understand how frustrating being a parent can be. Anger Comes From Obstructed Expectations
Demanding Respect Produces The Opposite The demand in itself is disrespect! Let us instead strive to be worthy of the respect of these Divine beings of light and love. What amazing people we ourselves will turn out to be if we can reach that state! We can’t just give respect in one circumstance and expect
Educate Through Experience Rather Than Rules I am not a fan of rules. I prefer guidelines. Rules attempt to control and there is a consequence for breaking them. Guidelines… GUIDE! They are designed to educate and inspire. A problem I see with rules as an educational tool is that they teach through an external source.
I Told My Kid To Do Her Homework I remember a day a few years ago I said to my daughter “It’s getting later you should probably start your homework.” She said okay and took out her books, but she didn’t seem happy about it! So I asked her what the problem was. She said
Priorities, Perspectives And Desires It’s so hard for adults to take the priorities, perspectives and desires of kids seriously. We cannot see how important different things are at different ages. This is why empathy is so important. We must work at being able to enter the consciousness of our children at each age/stage of development.
Monitor What They Watch… Sort Of As a parent I’ve always thought it’s important to monitor what TV and movies my child watches and the video games she plays. There are so many violent images and inappropriate messages in them. At the same time I want to value and respect her freedom. I’ve always tried
Sometimes I Get a Little Down I admit that I get a little down at times when I think of how many people believe that spanking, punishment and control are effective and acceptable ways to raise (treat) kids. I am often sad that there are still so many people who think that fear and intimidation