My kid is almost 19. When she was born I could hear her non-verbal communication so clearly. It was like she was speaking to me. I knew she was fully conscious and aware. A perfect soul in a little body. I knew I had to do whatever I could to give her the
These ideas are a good start on the journey
to loving and accepting ourselves.
The more intimate a self-relationship we have
The more we’re able to offer love to others
And the more we increase our capacity to enjoy life.
Punishment Dehumanizes. When parents make the decision to not punish they deeply humanize their children. Hanging Out with my Best Friend My daughter is almost 19. Today I was sitting with her on the couch, just hanging. Suddenly I was overcome by the feeling of closeness that exists between us. I felt so grateful. I
The Gift of NO Yesterday I asked my daughter to get something from the car for me. Her response was: “No I don’t feel like it.” Expressing my Gratitude The next day I went to her in a quiet moment and I said: “Hey kiddo I want you to know that when you said no
The Third Option Taking care of herself The other day I was at an event with my friend Tanya. It was 3 hour silent dance experience. It’s a pretty intense way to spend an afternoon. She was telling me later that at first she really felt like leaving. She just didn’t want to be there,
Teach Children to Embrace their Mistakes Road Trip With Good Friends A couple weeks ago I was on a road trip with some good friends. We went to Buffalo for a dance workshop and we all had a really good time. Making a Mistake On the way home I was given the task of navigating.
The Challenge of Authenticity Showing My Whole Self Authenticity is challenging. When I am authentic with somebody I am exposing a deep vulnerability. I can’t be authentic without showing the Yin and the Yang of who I am. If I leave out either I am hiding myself. Therefore it seems the degree of my authenticity
Rejecting my position as an authority figure Yesterday I spent the whole day with my daughter. We drove around doing errands and some shopping. A Relationship Filled With Ease The whole time we had a natural rhythm to our conversation. There was an ease in our interaction. There was a mutual care for each other’s
Competing Parenting Priorities The Pattern of Priorities In working with families over the years I have noticed one of the most common obstacles that people face is competing or contradictory parenting priorities. This is when faced with a situation where 2 (or more) different priorities are at play and we must choose which one to
The Sage Miracle Way back in 1995 I bought a van, pulled out the back seat and put a mattress in it. Then I took off and spent three months driving out west to explore Canada… And myself. This was what I called my “Pre-Pregnancy Trip”. I had many amazing experiences during those three months.