Saying YES in parenting is so powerful and significantly underused.
I’ve always suggested 10 yeses for every no, but I actually believe the effective ratio to be far greater.
How much joy can be generated by saying yes to a small thing?
I have learned that the feeling behind the yes,
the quality of the yes
has an profound effect as well.
Kids can feel what is going on behind the scenes with us.
They know what is in our hearts.
A Deep Lesson In Getting a Sub
My kid asked me if we could get a sub this week.
I answered “Yes my love, of course we can. will be my pleasure and joy to go get a sub with you!”
This made her positively BEAM with joy!
Reflecting, I realized that she could feel
that my yes was as much of a gift for me as it was for her.
That my joy was intimately tied in with her joy.
The absolute pleasure I took in giving her what she desired
Transmitted a message of worth and love directly into her heart.
Make Your Kids Feel Honoured, Special And Loved
If I had just said “sure”, she would have still been happy,
but because I put real attention and love into
the vibration behind the yes
she felt honoured, special and loved!!
It’s not always easy to say yes, but it’s worth the effort.
And it’s double effort to put deep feeling into our words
When you can feel how moved your kids are when
you consciously infuse your communication with love, acceptance
and celebration of who they are
The inner rewards you will experience are priceless.
Tina
Vivek Patel